Anonymous asked: Hi, I'm a girl and I'm 16. Recently, well, since about Easter time, I've been feeling rather down and I don't know why. I mean, I've got a brilliant loving mum, a couple of friends who I get on really well with, good grades at school, but I just feel sad. I've always suffered from low confidence and self esteem, but I'm so confused. I mean, when I list those things, I realise how lucky I am, but I just don't know anymore. I am a perfectionist and have OCD so I don't know if thats part of it?x
Hello. First of all, I can tell you that I absolutely can relate to this! I also, on the surface, have a good life, but I’m also very sad. One thing that I’ve noticed is that it is okay to be. An important thing is to not forget the good things. In low times, never forget the things that make you happy. Cause that’s the thing, we need to focus on the things that make us happy and not worry so much. There are too many things to enjoy in life, too many opportunities to take, too many goals and dreams to achieve. The teen years are extremely difficult, we are expected to act like adults while being treated like children. But life doesn’t end here, it won’t always be this hard. A lot of things that you do while growing up, like moving out, building your own home, getting a job, are things that help us on the way to happiness. We grow more confident as we grow older and routines do us good. There is nothing wrong about being a perfectionist, nothing at all . It’s who you are. But you can’t let it take you over, can’t let you ruin things in your life, because it will only cause regret. Just look ahead and see the good in life, focus on what makes you happy and don’t focus on the fact that you’re confused, but focus on things you are sure of.
Please, if I was not clear, or you need more specific advice on something, don’t hesitate to write again. Good luck.
Anonymous asked: Hello, I'm a girl and just had sex yesterday... I did it unsafe my question right know is should I take a morning after pil?
Protection is always the best option. If both you and your partner are safe, then take the morning after pill if you don’t want to use a condom. It’s best to know that your partner is safe, so don’t necessarily take their word for it - you should both go and get tested before you have sex again.
Hope it all goes well! :)
Anonymous asked: i like a guy that has a gf. it tears me apart to see him with her, and it hurts even more that i can't do anything about it. i'm scared to tell him and i just cry like crazy every time something of them appears like on fb or something. i swear it is killing me.
I’ve been in that exact spot you’re in, in fact I’m in it now. I told the guy how I felt about him, and from there on it was his decision. He hasn’t told me his decision yet, but he will. I hate feeling jealous, cause I want that girl to be me instead, ya know? Just tell him. And if you can’t to his face, over facebook (inbox him). I feel for you honey, we’re in the same boat aha.
I hope it all goes well.
centiva-deactivated20120623 asked: Hi, so there's this guy and I've liked him, like really liked him, for over two years now. The day all our year broke up for study leave my best mate told him for me and he said that he likes me as a friend and would like to get to know me better. We used to talk in French, rs and chemistry but now we have all our exams we hardly see each other. I've seen him in a few and we smile at each other but his exams are now finished and I have 2. I'll see him @prom &6th form, but I really like him!help!
Then why don’t you ask him to prom? That would be perfect! Forget the tradition of guys only ask girls, tell him how you feel in detail and ask him to prom with you.
If he says no (I doubt he will) try and grab a slow dance with him ;) I know how you feel but try and catch him in the hallways and stuff, meet up with him at break regularly or something. Become really close friends then make your move. I hope it all goes well :D
P.S It’s nice to have you friend tell your crush for you but it’s better to do it yourself - it comes from the heart.
Anonymous asked: thank you simone! it worked. i took my best friend's mom with me and at first my dad got a little mad but then acted like an adult. as soon as she left i thought he'd hit me but he hugged me instead. everything's fine now. thank you so much for your help. he knows who the father is and they straightened out their differences. i'm so grateful for this blog. and who did the decorating of the blog? it's so calming. thanks again :))))
Oh, this makes me sooooo happy!! I’m so glad it worked out for you! This is what we’re here for. Oh and it’s Naomi who’s done everything, so ask her, but she has indeed done a great job with it.
Good luck with everything!!:)
Anonymous asked: yes, i have my mom but she doesn't care what my dad does. i love my bestfriend so much and i don't want my dad to hurt him. it'll become obvious soon but i'm really scared at the moment.
But any other adult, you can’t face him alone, because if he hits you, you won’t have any proof and no one will believe you. This can’t go unseen! A teacher or something? What about your best friend’s parents? Otherwise, you are gonna have to hide the baby’s father’s identity from your father. If you don’t see any other solution, that is. Just say you don’t want to tell him who it is. I don’t know everything, but I hooppe you understand that you have to fight for what’s right because your dad can’t win this. Stay strong.
Anonymous asked: i'm 17 and pregnant, right. i can't wait to have my baby but i can't tell my dad, i'm too scared. he'll the beat the crap outta me, literally. he'll get so mad at the baby father, who is my best friend. i'm white and he doesn't like my bestfriend because he's black. we just had sex one time without protection but i love him. i don't know what to do..help me?
This is a tricky one. First of all, I’m so sorry that your father has such wrong opinions and that he would get physical with you. The most important thing is to not let him win. There is nothing wrong with you, of course it might be difficult to have a child when you’re 17, but it’s the way that it is now. It is not fair that you should be too scared to tell your own father. Do you have a mother, a relative or any other adult that you trust and can depend on? Cause then you should bring them when you tell your father. For protection. And bring your best friend too, to prove to your father that he has no right doing this. Tell me how it goes, best of luck!!